Thursday, May 16, 2013

What Am I Looking for?


This question seems to pop up a lot. I'm constantly asked it when trying to get general information about certain fetishes and ideas. I get this question when guys message me. So, what is it that I want? It's taken me some time to really think about this and this is what I've come up with so far. I'm sure I will be constantly updating this one post or putting up new ones as my ideas change.

As of now, these are the things I’m looking for with different relationships.

What am I looking for - in Friendships

- Someone(s) who I can just hang out with.
- Someone(s) who is a bit geeky so that we can geek out together! :D
- Loyalty - there is nothing suckier than realizing someone who you thought was a friend is not only willing to stab you in the back, but will also rub salt deep into the wound and attempt to rinse it with lemon juice.
- Realizing that fun times that can be done cheaply. There is no need to spend tons of money on nights out. A great friend is one who enjoys the random times at a park on the swings, or dancing in the street to random music.

I would love to have a group of friends that I feel completely comfortable with. Friends are my chosen family, the ones I go to for a shoulder to lean on and with fantastic news to share. They are the ones who keep me going and keep me smiling my brightest. 


What am I looking for - in a Relationship

- something that is non-monogamous. I love the thought of having that one person that I can always go home to and curl in bed with and just know that no matter what, they're there for me. That is a beautiful thought. However, I love the freedom of being able to go out and do things with other people. I like new experiences with new people. If my partner wants to watch, that’s awesome. If they want to join, even better! I get that this type of relationship isn't for everyone. I've tried the full monogamy relationship multiple times and I've come to terms that it is just not for me. 

Also, I can't do vanilla relationships. They do nothing but leave me feeling unfulfilled and wanting something more. In a perfect world I would have a loving Daddy, who would also be my Handler while I engage in pup play, and who would be a sick bastard when I'm craving days to be completely used and beaten until I am lying in a puddle of sweat, tears, and maybe even a bit of blood. I get that this is may be unlikely to have this all in one person, but it's something that I crave. I don't want to be the dominate one in a relationship. I've done that before, it really isn't me. 

What am I looking for - in Play Partners

-         Please be willing to meet in a very public place if we have not met yet. There are very few times where I am willing to meet with someone without doing this.
-         Do not expect anyone listed on my profile to be included in our play session!
-         Be willing to talk about things before hand. Limits need to be discussed and expectations should be laid out before anything happens.
-         Be ok with the fact that our play session may only be a one-time thing


Well this is all for now. Like I’ve said before, I will be updating this because I realize that I will continue to change and grow as a person and that my needs will change along with this. 

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